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am i trans because of the words I use
or the feelings I have
or a combination of that
needing to be seen by most casual acquaintances as a person
when I became non-binary
or started using those words
I got more and more comfortable in my body
the psychological weight
of not having to be a woman
made everything seem possible
and now
after meeting people
good people
who see me and feel me and accept me
outside of the words I use
in spite of, including etc
who are non-binary in their every choice
and power dynamic within their closest relationships
just good ass people
who don’t feel the need to use the words
but understand me
and agree
and feel the same way as I do
I’m questioning what the words mean to me
and who they’re for
maybe not being a woman gave me permission
to opt out of what our culture pressures women to be
and if I could opt out of that culture
would the words trans, or enby, or anything be meaningful in the same way
would I insist on different pronouns
and these folks
were so good with my pronouns
everytime
they never fucked up
I don’t know.
I think everyones a they
and I know why I use those words
well two reasons
and they’re both for other people
1 is for the other queers
to give them permission
to stop giving a fuck about gendered expectations
the other is for cis people
to make them think
even a little
that maybe we’re all able to choose our own lives
and expressions
but whats in it for me anymore
why do I put up with pedantic arguments
and being cut out of women’s spaces
and worry about navigating the word femme
when I opt in to those things anyway
because of shared experience
because I think my inclusion in those spaces goes with the spirit of the container they’re trying to create
why am I surprised
in kind of a problematic way
when cis men are good
or submissive
or tender hearted
or aware of their privilege
or thoughtful about their impact in every interaction
and talk about when things don’t feel good for them, or check in when they think things don’t feel good for me
are my expectations of cis men and my reluctance to engage with them
actually enforcing patriarchal ideals for them?
how am I complicit in enforcing binary stereotypes?
how do I engage with the world again in a more balanced way while keeping myself safe
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